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The charm of a beautiful Chinese woman

The myth: Women in China are kind and caring for family and friends

Truth: That’s actually not all that wrong…women in general are kinder and more caring. I suppose it’s a female thing that is further emphasized in Chinese women because of the family values that were instilled in them growing up. Good thing right? What’s not to adore about a beautiful woman who is caring, compassionate and loyal to her family? Theoretically nothing I guess. 

But too much of anything becomes a bad thing, even the good. If you don’t see what’s coming then I can safely assume no one told you how having a Chinese wife who is so loving and loyal to her family cuts like a double edged sword…

Traditional Chinese families are large and extended. Don’t be fooled into thinking there’s no such thing because China has a 1 child policy. It’s perhaps worth your while to learn that this policy is a fairly new one… established and officially enforced by Chinese leader Deng Xiaoping in 1979. That’s just under 30 years ago.

And I’m not just talking about siblings, I’m talking about aunts, uncles, grand-uncles, great-grand aunts, cousins, second cousins, etc…the Chinese are very close knit (the ancient Chinese used to live in one big family mansion/house- extended family included) and honouring your elders and responsibility for your family (extended included) is all part of that lesson in making a Chinese women ”caring and kind” to friends and family.

So what does that mean to you? It means unless you’re one to embrace ‘caring’ (that includes housing and financially supporting) and receiving unlimited unwelcomed “advice” on just about everything (must apply advice given, else deemed ill mannered and disrespectful) from the extended family, it’s not going to be smooth sailing with your Chinese wife/girlfriend/life partner. Her kind and loving nature for her family makes her very obedient to her parents and elders which also means she’s going to lack her own voice.

So in short, yes, Chinese women can be very kind and caring to her friends and family, but that trait also cuts another way…are you prepared to own your home and your life to what is going to seem like a mass of people?

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